What does it mean when your husband tells you he feels another woman is beautiful? Does it have to have any particular meaning behind it? or is he merely making an innocent observation that he wants to share with his life partner?
It’s too often that innuendos are made where there is really nothing. Everyone looks at attractive people, men, and women, regardless of how beautiful or incredible the person they’re attached to is.
It’s not a reflection of the relationship between these two people or a lack of feeling for the partner. Whether you see someone in real-time while out with a mate or on television, it’s merely a simple gesture of admiration.
Healthy couples might even share comments on the attractiveness of the man or woman they admire. It’s a matter of security within each individual.
If that is lacking, this is when jealousy will begin to rear its head. So, trouble will brew for the partnership, particularly if a husband were to comment on another woman’s beauty to a wife who might lack confidence or suffer from lower self-esteem.
What would these women presume to be the meaning behind their husband’s off-handed compliment toward the other woman? Let’s look at some ideas of what a wife might assume.
When a husband comments on other women’s looks
Men and women worldwide are drawn to beauty. When we see something attractive, our eyes are instinctively diverted in that direction. The behavior doesn’t involve emotion or feeling usually; it’s mere observation.
In healthy, thriving couples, often there’s banter between the two when they admire someone. They share their opinions. However, suppose you misinterpret a spouse’s confidence or are unaware there’s a diminished sense of security. In that case, you could be opening a bout of jealousy and bitterness that will set a tone for the relationship from that point forward.
What could it mean to a wife with these sorts of issues when a husband compliments another woman’s beauty? Check out what a wife might presume.
1. The guy doesn’t know how to control his natural instincts
The suggestion from some wives who don’t appreciate their husband’s complimentary behavior is that the man has an overload of testosterone. That causes an inability to control his instincts, or perhaps he’s simply not making an effort to control himself. There’s also the potential he can’t help it.
On the other side of that coin, women with lowered self-esteem are challenged to control an emotional reaction over what could be a mere observation of an attractive person. The fact that the guy decided to share his opinion with his wife indicates there was no ill intention behind the look.
There would have never been a comment if there were any indication the statement would be hurtful, nor would the man want his wife to believe that he has feelings for anyone other than her.
Simply admiring another person’s attractiveness has nothing to do with emotion or feeling. There’s no desire toward that individual, but that often gets misunderstood by partners with lower self-esteem.
2. The wife feels the husband is being disrespectful
Unfortunately, again, when someone suffers from diminished self-worth and low confidence, they believe the worst when the person they love takes notice of another person, even if the intention is harmless.
As the wife, your idea is that your mate is being disrespectful if not mean by letting you know he finds another woman beautiful.
You’re not considering that he hasn’t implied that this person is more attractive than you, nor has he made any attempt to approach the person.
As a husband, he decided to share a personal observation with you off the cuff showing clearly no ill-intention but faith that he could be open, vulnerable, and honest in conversation.
The ideal scenario would have been to accept that vulnerability with no judgment or repercussions as a sign of trust in you, loyalty to you, and faithfulness in the relationship.
No husband who wants to cheat is going to point out the woman he finds attractive and wants to pursue to his wife. It’s imperative to take a few seconds to think before reacting to any conversation or observation.
3. There is the indication that he is attracted to this woman
In another scenario where a husband comments on a woman’s beauty to his wife, there is a possibility that he is attracted to this person. Merely because a couple marries and has a committed relationship with the one person they vow to spend their life with doesn’t detract from the fact that either person is human with the capacity for developing attraction for other people.
In virtually every situation, a husband and wife won’t act on these infatuations and will quickly dissuade the attraction. While your husband’s last thought is to cheat on you, the interest he develops is not something he can help. But it is something he can ultimately control.
When he shares the fact that she’s beautiful, that’s one thing, it’s natural, but attraction goes a step further. It doesn’t mean there will be misbehavior, nor does it mean your husband doesn’t love you. But if it’s something that happens frequently, it might be cause for concern.
4. There has been a previous incident of cheating
When your husband comments to you about another woman’s beauty, it might seem like an off-handed observation to some ladies who enjoy trusting, loving, healthy relationships with their spouses. Still, it could spell trouble if the husband in the scenario is a former cheater.
Whether the guy has cheated in your marital relationship or with a previous partner is irrelevant as far as you’re concerned because the red flag is there and always presents as an “undertone,” if you will. In other words, it’s never out of the realm of possibility.
Instead, the moment he compliments a woman on her beauty, seemingly harmlessly, hoping you’ll find his honesty and openness refreshing and the incident nonthreatening. You view it as a serious problem with a need to start paying closer attention to his behavior.
Perhaps, in this situation, if there’s never been a case where the man actually stepped out on you or made attempts other than noticing a female during your relationship. It’s worth sitting down for a conversation to let him know what you’re feeling. How his being labeled a cheater puts up red flags for you with your partnership, and why his noticing other women makes you insecure.
Men who love their wives will pay attention and make concessions in their behavior to prevent further insecurities in the relationship with their spouse.
The fact that he has remained loyal and faithful despite his previous reputation shows he’s content with the person he’s with and doesn’t want to make the same mistakes with his marriage that he did with past partners.
The ball is in your court to have faith and trust in your husband as the man who’s never betrayed you. It’s unfair to make him accountable for an incident that took place in his past with your current situation.
Simply because someone cheats on another person at some point in life doesn’t make them a serial cheater. People do change.
5. Online opinions and observations could be a concern
If your husband is looking for women on an online platform but showing you the ladies he finds beautiful, it could be a concern for the simple fact that he’s seeking these women out.
At the same time, he’s sharing with you the attractive people he finds while perhaps merely scrolling through his social network feed. When looking at it from that context, it could be completely innocent.
Again, that plays into your level of security and trust in the relationship. If it makes you uncomfortable, let the guy know he shouldn’t be browsing attractive women on social sites.
But then, hopefully, you’re not taking a gander at the sexy memes that come across your screen from lady friends who want to share.
The honest truth is men and women will look at beautiful individuals. It’s natural and instinctual. As a rule, no emotions or feelings are attached when someone notices an attractive man or woman. It’s an observation, admiration.
There’s a fleeting thought process to oneself of how attractive that person is or even a comment to the person you’re with indicating how hot that guy or girl is, even if the individual you’re with is your spouse.
Whether you make that observation to a wife or husband will depend on the sort of relationship you have.
Hopefully, most people enjoy a healthy, trusting, and open sort of union where you can share these sorts of opinions. If a man tells his wife another woman is beautiful, that speaks volumes to the fact that he cherishes the woman he’s with, trusts her with his secrets, and intends their love to endure the test of time.